OUR FRIENDSHIP AT 10 AND NOW 56 YEARS LATER

“Hi Alan. Can you reserve a copy of your book, SPARKS OF JOY – SEIZE THE MOMENT for me?”, a text appeared on my phone (usually referred to as a “smartphone” [I am still trying to figure out why]). It was a message from my old (referencing “old” as in number of years ago instead of age) classmate.

“Let’s meet next week, say Monday or Tuesday”, I suggested. He said “yes”. Now, to contact the other guy.

“Duncan and I are meeting next week. Can you join us?”, I asked Eddie. A reply came a short while later.

“Sure”, replied Eddie.

Now, to text back to Duncan.

“Hi Duncan, can we meet Monday at 9.30am for breakfast? Eddie Lim is joining us. Let’s meet at the coffee shop next to the pasar pagi (1)”. Duncan agreed.

“Hi Eddie, Duncan is on for Monday, 9.30am at the coffee shop next to the pasar pagi.”

Eddie replied, “OK, I will join you guys on Monday morning”.

It was Friday night, March 20th; when the last message was received. Our meeting plan was set. The three of us – our first get together in over 10 years.

The weekend went as fast (maybe faster) than it came, and I was cruising down the Federal Highway after having dropped my wife, Jeannie at work.

I was an hour away from our 9.30am appointment. I expected to be early into Klang and had made plans to drop in on my folks to see how they were doing. It was one of those rare occasions when my visit to them was an early morning one.

They were having their breakfast when I arrived at their home. Mum was with a bit of a flu, otherwise; both were well. Dad was back to reading the newspaper, from cover to cover. Good for him as he wanted to be up to speed with the going-ons in the world.

It was a good “whirlwind” visit, yes a whirlwind visit as before long, the time crossed over past 9.30am. Both Duncan and Eddie presumably were punctual people and I did not want to keep them waiting. Just as I thought this thought up, I received a call on my smartphone from Eddie. I told him to hang on (to?😂. These English sayings…keeps you wondering at times…😉😇), I would be there in 5 minutes (including factoring parking-the-car time).

As I parked my car in a lot by the field (there is a field around the area), I spotted Eddie and he, me. Or was it the other way round?

As we got to walking to the coffee shop, we spotted Duncan. The three of us meeting together for the first time after over 10 years. The coffee shop was crowded. Notice that throughout this essay, I referred to this eatery as “coffee shop”, and not restaurant? The reason is quite simple. This is Klang. People here tell it as it is. “Restaurant” indeed! (Supposed to look like I’m mumbling under my breath. Haha)

Eddie led us to a couple more, “restaurants”, however they were crowded, too. Next time, we will have to make reservations… at “restaurants like these😉😂🤔THen, Eddie took us to a slightly off the beat, Indian shop. Here, Eddie and I went for capati, Duncan settled for a drink only.

We sat at the shop for a couple of hours, reminiscing old times, school days, what we’ve been doing with ourselves over the years. Eddie then suggested we adjourn to his house nearby. Both Duncan and I agreed.

The walls of Eddie’s house were adorned with all his beautiful paintings that he painted over time. Eddie was simply great at art since as long as I can remember, even when we were in primary school. Testimony to his talent hung on the walls all over his house. An amazing artist he is, even today.

Eddie has three sons, Duncan has two daughters, and I, one daughter. Our children are all doing well in their lives.

As we talked about our lives during school; we never envisioned that we were going to be the age that we are now, looking back at our school years. We were not all that ambitious when we were 10, 11 or 12 years. We did the things normal kids do, I think. During our secondary school years, we were split and went to different classes / streams.

As I personalised Eddie’s copy and Duncan’s copy of SPARKS OF JOY – SEIZE THE MOMENT, I was looking forward to the next 25 years of our friendship growing even stronger than ever before. We had a good time at our first meet up after 10 years.

Our meeting was so good, that we finally said our goodbyes at 3.30pm, not without going through the stations of the cross. What one would expect starting at 9.30am, to end at 11.00am; ended at 3.30pm. Really good times. We intend to meet on a more regular basis. Perhaps the big one as our other classmate / schoolmate Mak Weng Kit suggested – our 50th year alumni gathering.

NOTES:

  1. “Pasar pagi” is Bahasa Malaysia for “morning market”.

YOU SUCCEED WHEN

FEELINGS COME, FEELINGS GO.

YOUR LIFE IS A CANVAS.
YOU ARE THE ARTIST OF YOUR OWN LIFE. IT REMAINS BLANK IF YOU DON’T DO ANYTHING.
DISCIPLINE IS DOING SOMETHING NO MATTER HOW
YOU FEEL.

YOU SUCCEED WHEN YOU BELIEVE.

~ ALAN IAN ATKINSON
Writer, Author, Storyteller

Skillstogo – believe in yourself, all the stages of human condition to success

YOUR FUTURE, YOUR MASTERPIECE

YOUR FUTURE AHEAD IS A CONSTANT WORK IN PROGRESS.

You are the artist of your own masterpiece… a representation of your life. The choice of tools or instruments…colours, whether it is oil- or water-based…The type of paint palette, the size of brush and the number of brushes used… The brush to canvas can be applied with gentle or stronger strokes. Every item used, even the type of canvas each is a representation of a part of your life.

No qualifications needed. No past experience needed.

Every stroke of the paint brush to canvas creates your masterpiece.

What if there is a small mistake in a choice of colour or a brushstroke? You just paint over it. It may leave a blemish or two or many in your masterpiece. Never mind. It is your masterpiece that you are willing to rise when you fall…that you are willing to start over with a “never give up” attitude.

No one can copy your masterpiece, not even replicate it by use of technology because the thoughts and emotions that you invested into this work is yours and your only.

Your masterpiece is evolving on a constant.

Everyone is an artist. There are no wrong masterpieces. There are no imperfect masterpieces. Everyone’s work is unique to that person. Which makes each masterpiece priceless.

Laura Atkinson’s art, 2013

NOTE: This picture above, was created by Laura Atkinson on a Samsung Note 2, when she was 12 years old.

PICASSO AND HIS PAINTINGS, ARBUS AND HER PHOTOGRAPHY, ATKINSON AND HIS ESSAYS

In the crowded business of his life, the writer tells his story through the carvings, drawings, painting formation of words… of sentences… on a canvas of a blank page in his notebook, his ideaSketchpad💡, his blog or a Microsoft word file.

Pictures form words….words form pictures. It is his expression of what he sees. Most times, if he has to relate a story… an event… an incident, his eyes or ears or even his nose, will dictate the story to his brain which transforms into signals flowing to his hands that are typing on the keyboard or his hand that holds a writing instrument. Oft times, if a story has to be told as it is; no feelings are put into it, as they are not required.

When no feelings are included in his work, then, he is like any ordinary painter or a person with a camera, just taking pictures.

Visions by Picasso (Singulart)

When he immerses himself in his work; he becomes involved. His additional sense which cannot be seen nor touched yet is so powerful, takes him over and beyond himself.

His feelings transform him from just being a painter to being an artist where every stroke of the brush, the way it is used on the canvas, the pressure applied in each stroke – a person admiring the artist work can sense the artist’s mood, excitement, sadness. It is quite remarkable.

The Use of Black & White by Diane Arbus (ArtDependence)

Framing a picture with just the right amount of light, bouncing off the subject to express an impression of people in the shot or impress an expression that the photographer wants to get his audience to experience…that makes him different from being someone just taking pictures.

As the writer awakes from his short nap, a well deserved and needed rest, he ponders on the silence within. The right amount of pressure on the “stroke of his expression”, the “light that filters to the word” that causes it to resonate with his readers, his audience…brings to life all that he wants to share… the exact angle… the point of view… as he sees it!

No matter how very hard he tries to captivate his whole audience, that are all his readers; there will be some who have no depth of field in life. These are the “some”, those who don’t leave a wonder in the lives of people; yet, wonder what has happened to life.

NOTES:
1. Some of the many artists that have influenced me in the way I see things, the way I write:
Frida Kahlo y Calderón was a Mexican painter known for her many portraits, self-portraits, and works inspired by the nature and artifacts of Mexico.
Michelangelo di Lodovico Buonarroti Simoni, known simply as Michelangelo, was an Italian sculptor, painter, architect and poet of the High Renaissance.
Pablo Ruiz Picasso was a Spanish painter, sculptor, printmaker, ceramicist and theatre designer.
René François Ghislain Magritte was a Belgian surrealist artist, who became well known for creating a number of witty and thought-provoking images. Often depicting ordinary objects in an unusual context, his work is known for challenging observers’ preconditioned perceptions of reality.
Wikipedia

2. Some of the many photographers that have inspired me to capture moments like no other:
Henri Cartier-Bresson was a French humanist photographer considered a master of candid photography, and an early user of 35 mm film. He pioneered the genre of street photography, and viewed photography as capturing a decisive moment.
Diane Arbus (March 14, 1923 – July 26, 1971) was an American photographer. … Arbus’s imagery helped to normalize marginalized groups and highlight the importance of proper representation of all people.
Cynthia Morris Sherman is an American artist whose work consists primarily of photographic self-portraits, depicting herself in many different contexts and as various imagined characters.
Ellen von Unwerth is a German photographer. She worked as a fashion model for ten years before becoming a photographer, and now makes fashion, editorial, and advertising photographs.
Dominique Issermann is a French photographer. She works primarily with black and white photography, and is noted for her works in portraits, fashion and advertising. 
Wikipedia

3. Some of the many essays I’ve written that capture moments like no other:
At 33,000ft, July 20, 2014.
Jeff and Alfredo – The two uncles, Sept 26, 2015.
My Sister – The Fighter, Jul 26, 2018
10 YEARS AS A RACE SWIMMER’S PARENTS. WAS IT WORTH IT? April 26, 2021
NOSILY SILENCED, Jul 19, 2021
NIGEL EDWARD ATKINSON, Aug 12. 2021
TAIPING – TOWN OF HEAVENLY PEACE, Oct 18, 2021
THE WRITER INNOVATOR, Jun 21, 2022
LAURA, Jun 27, 2022