TIME TO DECIDE HOW YOUR DAY WENT, WHAT YOU WANT TO LEAVE BEHIND AS THE “PAST” AND WHAT YOU WANT TO TAKE WITH YOU FROM NOW, THE PRESENT MOMENT; INTO THE FUTURE, WHICH IS THE NEXT MOMENT.
TIP: IF IT BRINGS A SMILE TO YOUR FACE, YOUR HEART AND RESONATES WITH ALL YOU WANT TO DO; THAT YOU TAKE WITH YOU INTO YOUR FUTURE….JUST SAYING.
As the seconds go past, equally spaced out, one after another, in precision; be year end becomes less and less further away.
The new year is eagerly rushing to reach us as fast as it can; bringing with it many, many surprises.
It is time to reflect on everything great, good and could-be better, how it has shaped us.
GOALS – Have we hit them? If yes, Congratulations. If it was a near miss, re-focus, aim and get the goal in the coming year.
If you have missed and way off target, analyze what worked for you and what didn’t. No point beating yourself up over it. Just get back to the starting block / line and start all over again. If you did not leave the starting block / line; you have to be honest with yourself with the “why?” Then, get back on the starting block, focus, aim, get the target.
If you want some form of consolation; even those who have achieved or just missed their goals this year, have to start the new year at the starting block / line, the same as you.
As we close the final hours, minutes, seconds, moments; let us rejoice and be grateful for our family, friends, people in general, who have impacted our lives, that the wonderful impressions in the time over 2025 become the memories that we want to keep all our lives.
HAPPY NEW YEAR’S EVE 2025. FILLED WITH GRATITUDE, LOVE, PEACE AND JOY; LET US ENJOY THE LAST MOMENTS OF 2025.
Just received a container (bottle?) of pineapple jam tarts and another container of cheese fingers – both absolutely homemade – for sure. These are no ordinary pineapple jam tarts. These are top-of-the-line, best-est pineapple jam tarts around town (here I mean Subang Jaya, Pee Jay (also known as Petaling Jaya or P.J.) (1) and Kay El (Kuala Lumpur or K.L.) (2). The cheese fingers are great, too.
It all started when I got a text message from my cousin, Rachel Jacques, “Merry Christmas Alan and Jeannie. I want to send you some pineapple jam tarts. Was thinking of you when I was making them”. My reaction was “Wow!”.
Thinking of me when she was making them. What a way to start Christmas morning, receiving this wonderful message.
Jeannie and I took a short drive to Mid-Valley Shopping Mall (3) for brunch and to pick up a couple of things. “Short drive” means the distance is the same as always but the drive was a breeze with hardly any traffic on the Federal Highway.
We were in Klang (4) a couple of hours or so later, to celebrate and bask in the joy of Christmas with the Atkinson family, a tradition of sorts for as long as I can remember.
Must do, have to do or want to do. We want to do. For us, the family gathering together on this joyous occasion is one of the best gifts we can give and get from one another.
Being in the presence of one another, sending family waves to each other, says it all. In this day and age, it is becoming more challenging for us to meet one another. Almost everybody face- screens each other. Terror one, two and three. Don’t play play. (Actually can). (5)
Jeannie and I were the earliest to arrive at dad’s and mum’s house, so we were able to have some 2-on-2 (Jeannie & I, and Mum & Dad 😁) time with mum and dad. I was about to say, “We gotta spend time with Mum & Dad” – the American way. However, “gotta” in this context means we have to make the extra effort.
They were watching a musical show on tv. Mum was in her element, singing along with many of the carols. She sang soprano and could hold her notes and timing pretty well. Dad was as usual, in choir conducting mode – “conducting the choir”.
Royal Salute.The King at 93 and the Queen at 88, of the Atkinson and Gomes families, literally.
The rest of the family, including my neice, Ashley (Terence’s & Mabel’s daughter), who was on holiday from Europe; arrived shortly after.
Jeannie got a chicken sort of dish prepared though the high tea was catered. Uma made a wicked (awesomely awesome) Shepherd’s pie, Mexican style, complete with cachos.
THE ATKINSON FAMILY
The food was great the evening was great, most of all – the whole family coming together was great.
Jeannie and I headed to the Archibalds for dinner. We arrived a few minutes ahead of 7.30pm. Most of their guests were already there, meaning the phrase “typical Malaysia time” was waning. Punctuality here meant being earlier than the stipulated time.😁
Hazel, Patrick, their daughter, Mary; yours truly and Jeannie.
Patrick’s and Hazel’s guest list was a bit unusual, a first; at least to me. There were about 20 guests.
The “main star” of each family that was there, was a person that was a godchild of theirs. Jeannie and I were a bit modified. Patrick and Hazel were witnesses to our daughter, Laura’s marriage. Can I say this was a “themed” dinner?
I found out that some of them were from Klang in their schooling days – all of whom were great fans of mum’s (my mother, better known as Mrs. Atkinson) butter cake. They grew up with mum’s butter cakes at birthdays and other celebrations.
The mix & match (if there was such a thing for food at dinner) of dishes (not just empty dishes but with food on them😉😀) at dinner was pretty good. If I had to choose one that was my very favourite for the evening; it would have had to be the cutlets.
Christmas Day came and went. Like that lah! (Malaysian expression).
At the Atkinsons on Boxing Day
“Boxing Day”, the day after Christmas; was one of the most important dates in the Christmas season in the 1960s, 1970s and 1980s. Besides boxing each other (which we were made to believe, yet had no idea why. No google and ChatGBT back then.), it was “Open House” at the Atkinsons of Klang.
The morning usually began early (it should… after all it is the “morning”), with family members from the Atkinsons and Gomes clans – uncles, aunties, cousins and lots more being the first to visit. Our neighbours and friends made up the rest. The boys of La Salle Klang and the girls from HIJ Convent Klang made up the next big number of visitors. We also had many visitors from other states in Malaysia, as well as visitors from abroad that added blessings to our family.
Open House at Jalan Ladang (where we used to stay), quite often lasted non-stop for 2 to 3 days. Food flowed. Drinks flowed. Throughout the time – always. Music played 24 hours, non-stop, almost. The time when the music stopped was because it had reached the end of a vinyl record, or open-reel tap-deck, or cassette tapes. Turn it over to the flip side, and continue with the music.
The house was a big house with a lot of land, including a badminton court. It was amazing how we accommodated so many people with so many people over the two to three day hive of activity. But we did. The La Salle guys from my late brother Nigel’s, Terence’s, Malcolm’s and my batch; my late sister, Jennifer’s classmates and schoolmates of HIJ Convent, our cousins – they all reminisce about the great times they always had with us during our Christmas Open House and other times, too. We lived near La Salle School, which meant our home was a natural stopover for the boys. We always had fun – kaw kaw (6) maximum.
Fast forward to today – we may have never appreciated the time we had as much as we appreciate them now. I wonder if appreciation is quantifiable – if we add the energy of our appreciation now to the time we were living in the 1960s, 1970s and 1980s.
Today’s world is commandeered by the screen in front of us, be it the smartphone, tablet, computer big-screen. With the introduction of A.I. and ChatGBT, many people have willingly surrendered their rights to think and make decisions – to technology. Make no mistake – at the apex of technology is still helmed by human. Can you imagine another “the Martians Are Coming” (7).
While technology and all the gizmos that come with it are exciting and mostly helpful when used appropriately, they are tools to help our everyday life, instead of our everyday life becoming enslaved to these devices. I love tech and all it has to offer, but I won’t trade human-ness for them.
Let the spirit of being with people continue to be the magic of Christmas.
NOTES: 1. Subang Jaya and Petaling Jaya are cities in Selangor, the west central state of Peninsular Malaysia, Malaysia. 2. Kuala Lumpur, the capital, is a bustling, ultra modern, cosmopolitan city of Malaysia. 3. One of the largest shopping malls in Malaysia, Mid-Valley Megamall is located in Kuala Lumpur. 4. Klang, is officially the royal city of Selangor. 5. Don’t play play actually means seriously, or this is serious. 6. Kaw kaw means strong or concentrated. Kaw is usually associated with coffee. Kaw Kaw would mean absolutely maximum. He got a reprimanding kaw kaw for the multiple errors he made in his work assignment. 7. “The Martians Are Coming” usually refers to the panic caused by Orson Wells” 1938 radio adaption of H.G. Wells’ War of the Worlds, presented as fake news bulletins, but it’s also a popular phrase in sci-fi.
Top-of-the-line, best-est pineapple jam tarts around town.
Notice the “his” (Kheng’s) and “her” (Sarah’s) matching socks, with drooping magnetic ears. Super high tech.
The power couple, dad and mum; as there were tearing open the Christmas wrappers from their gifts received.
The various Christmas tree ornaments, decorating one (there are three) of the Christmas trees in Dad’s & Mum’s house.Picture taken (as in most of the pictures here, courtesy of the newest addition to the Atkinson family, Kheng.
Jeannie, very proud of her beautiful Christmas-y blouse acquisition.She’s got one for the coming Chinese New Year, too.
Laura, the youngest of the Atkinson family; with her husband, Praga.
The Queen of the Atkinson and Gomes families. Looking as lovely as ever.
Our (Jeannie’s and my) son-in-law, Praga.
Uma, Malcolm’s wife, always a great cook. She made a sort of a slightly spicy, shepherd’s pie (she got the recipe when they stopped by at the Manger to pay homage to baby Jesus) with chachos (if I spelt it right), I think.
The youngest of my siblings, Malcolm. Also, the calmest.
Ashley – She’s back from a far away land, for the Christmas holidays.
You would probably mistake him for the lead singer from the world famous “Sha-na-na” singing group. Jay has earned and established bragging rights of his own – famous as an established singer and musician. Husband of Ashley, he speaks fluent French, just saying.
The Atkinson family, pickled or tickled about something.
Patrick and Hazel Archibald, and us; Jeannie and Alan.
At Patrick and Hazel Archibald’s home, for Christmas dinner.
My growing up years in the 1960s and 1970s on Christmas Eve morning, as I now look back were really special. It is now that I realise they were special years. My sister, brothers, parents and I were together – that has to account for the meaning “Special“. We were making sure our new clothes would be perfect for Christmas eve midnight mass, ensuring that the presents under the tree were just right, meaning that we were getting presents 😁, mum was busy in the kitchen frantically cooking a feast that could (and did) feed the whole neighbourhood and dad was always busy tinseling the whole house with tinsels (it was very popular back then).
Today, things have become modern. However, the sparkle of love at Christmas is as radiant as ever.
Hark! Now, hear the angels sing, “A new King is about to be born today!”
Arriba, arriba! (meaning up, up! Come on, come on! Let’s get going! in Mexican), associated with that famed Speedy Gonzales.
We thought – Mexican food, no walls, probably some Mexican music, Christmas decorations.
Sombrero-clad, we had a quiet, but not-so-quiet (There was a gathering of muchacho and muchacha amigos at a table nearby us who were having a noisily good time) dinner at Las Carretas. It looks like this is the come-to restaurant for our wedding anniversaries – we have had several wedding anniversary dinners here, in the past, already.
It was a great day – filled with multiple, countless numbers of well / wedding anniversary wishes and blessings from family and friends – it has been an amazing day which we know has given our next 30 years that extra happiness.
Time to celebrate. It’s the first Saturday of the second half of the year. Who would have imagined 50 years ago that we would arrive to this day? It is also the 5th morning of July in the 25th year of the 2000s. We have only just moved into the second half of the year. Why only “just moved” you may ask? That’s a very good question.
Very Frenchy. Having a sliced chicken, butter & jam toasted sandwich, with an Americano. My coffee had to be the Americano as they did not serve long-black. Working on something new. No, not that… yet which I have been questioned many-a-time, “When is your …. …. launched?”
This year consists of 365 days. Therefore, split the year down the middle to exactly half of the year, it would mean 365 days divide by 2, the answer to that is 182.5 days. June 30th marks the completion of 181 days. Therefore, 12.00pm July 2nd, would be the half year mark. So, “just moved” is correct.
For those people who are goal oriented (Is it oriented or orientated? What do you think? [1] ) Are you on track with your annual goals? Do you still remember those new year’s resolutions that you (may have) made at the beginning of this year? Yes, those resolutions.
If you have not started yet or started and stopped; I will let you in on a secret. It’s one of the world’s best secrets, ever: Now, is a good time as any, to start. Your biggest and fiercest competitor is your old and current YOU.
Now that you know who your biggest competitor is, you, you can run your race. Go all out and more. Best of all is for every notch up from where you are now, it is considered a notch towards self-improvement. Don’t stop until you cross the finish line.
I am pretty much on target with my goals, just a bit behind. Initially, I thought I was going to zoom well ahead of my goals. Then, as we moved into Q2 of the year, things seemed to have slowed down a couple of notches.
Anytime is a good time to celebrate. Now is as good as any to start. As for the goals that are yet to be achieved or what may seem as impossible from this point of time; if the current results may seem too distant from your goals; keep going. It ain’t over til it’s over. Summon the inner strength, that’s waiting to show off what it can do. Most of all, have fun. Whatever the results may be at the finish line; it will be worth it.
I think most of all, we celebrate being grateful for every next, new moment we are blessed with, that we have the opportunity to make a difference in today’s world in our own little way.
Notes:
In formal writing, more so in American English, “oriented” is widely accepted. “Orientated” is acceptable in more casual or British English (Queen’s English… or is it referred to as King’s English now?) contexts.
Yay! Woohoo! Your da man! (or girl / woman). Congratulations are in order. Multitudes of congratulation messages, lunches, dinners, talks on how you did it, pats on your back…..
Warning: Achieving your dream can be scary. It is easier to chase after your dream than to achieve it.
When you had a dream, you went after it. Vision / mission. Goals with little steps… little victories… growing to big goals and victories… Long work days with possible sleepless nights…Plan A…if it does not work by a certain time, Plan B kicks on…and so on. You are constantly on the go.
You go for motivational talks and seminars to pump your adrenaline to “super levels”.
Here, I am a firm believer that motivation is 1% or less from other people (motivational speakers and seminars), things or surroundings; and 99% from within us.
Identify that 99% and work on it.
until you reached destination : DREAM Achievement. You did it!
The scary part for most dream achievers is what happens after that? What’s next?
Good question? As I sit at my work station, with a fairly big chunk of Cadbury’s chocolate with hazel nut, in my mouth; trying to re-enact the day, that day, last Saturday, as it happened, without the edits (ha ha 😉😂); I asked myself, “How best can I write that story as close as possible as to how the day transpired?”
It all started at the end of that Friday night (the night before that Saturday), when the time passed 11.59:59pm to 12.00:00am. As you can tell, I am trying to buy time, while trying to figure out as to how to put this essay together.
It all started when my wife, Jeannie, the Batik Influencer; met with the organisers nearly a couple of months earlier, to talk about putting this event together. Lisa and Dato Sari were the organisers, who planned to put a book fest together. They said it would be good for me to do a book launch at the weekend event.
Fast forward to a few days before the event. I was in one of Kay El’s (More commonly spelt as K. L. for Kuala Lumpur [1]) most prominent shopping malls / gallery, to get a couple of errands done there. As I was walking past one of the shop boutiques; I saw a pair of shoes that simply stopped me right there, in my tracks. I went in for a closer look, with absolutely no intentions of buying. Just to look-si (or is it “look-c”?), that’s all.
It was a beautiful pair of red suede leather shoes (“Red, red, red suede shoes. Don’t want anybody to step on my red suede shoes” – Elvis Presley’s remake of his other colour-shoes song). It had a message on it, “We are yours, take us home”. As I stared harder, the message seemed to have vanished. 😁
I thought it was a handsome pair of shoes, – also great for wearing to my book launch. I did not purchase the pair immediately as I was in a bit of a rush for time.
As we got closer, to the launch, I went over to the store and got the pair of red Clarks Torhill Lo shoes. It was the right shade of red, (to me) a bright chilli red suede leather top, paired with Clark’s famous ribbed outsole. Very comfortable. I like Clarks because their shoes are well made – durable and long-lasting. My last pair of Clark’s lasted me 8 years.
Saturday came. We were at Amcorp Mall, early. Jeannie and Laura (our daughter), had seen to most of the planning of this event. One of the first things to start our event, was a bouquet of flowers.
The flowers were from Soo Sin, Angie and SL Kong, all ex-work-colleagues of Jeannie’s. THe message on the card read: “Alan Ian Atkinson Congratulations! Wishing you an amazing journey in life, full of success and happiness!
Cheers from SL Kong, Angie & Soo Sin.”
The flowers set the tone. Soo Sin wanted to come, but due to her illness which had a setback, she couldn’t make it.
People started coming by, many of whom were curious to find out what the book was about. Then, when they saw the banner behind me (i at most times, stood in front of the table) remarked, “Hey, you’re him (pointing to the banner)” . “Yes, one and the same”, I replied.
They all had their copies of the book personalised by me, and, also had pictures taken with me. They were thrilled to meet an author of a book in person.
One of the book buyers, Kayla; had a long chat with me, mainly on photography. Hung around her neck was a nice retro-looking Fuji Instax camera. I encouraged her to pursue a career in photo journalism, since she was passionate about the idea.
I was honoured to meet with all the book buyers, and all those who stopped to enquire about the book. Each shared their reasons and expectations as to why they chose the book and what they expect to get from it. “What brings them sparks of joy? Many liked what they saw as they glanced through the pages. From their sharing, I may put together a book, if that is the direction. Who knows? Let’s see.
My message which I shared with everyone I met was to live in the present, plan and aim for the future. The future is not necessary the illusive distant future, but the very next moment, which is the future.
It begun. Multiple people acquired a copy of my book, SPARKS OF JOY – SEIZE THE MOMENT.
NOTES: 1. Kuala Lumpur is the capital of the country, Malaysia. Malaysia is the “Chair” for ASEAN in 2025.
The church bells and altar boys ring their handheld bells in celebration that our Lord Jesus Christ has risen…on the third day after His death, as He said He would.
Going back to the time over 2,000 years ago when this was not just a re-enactment, but the real thing, I can imagine that there were basically two large groups of people then who trembled: 1. Those who said, “Crucify Him” and put Him on the cross. 2. Those who believed every word He said. Then, I ask myself, “Which of these two groups would I have been, if I was there at that time?”
Yesterday (Saturday, April 19th), I received a text message from Judith, a good friend of mine: …”I saw your post (1) on the group chat…I wanted to share that I saw Passion of Christ on Netflix and balled my eyes out”.
My reply to her was that “Easter is working on you”. She was touched…She was moved.
We rejoice that He has risen as He said He would. Alleluia!
Happy Easter to all Christians, the world over. May His love resonate in all with Peace, Joy and Happiness. Jeannie & Alan