IF YOU ARE MEASURING YOUR PROGRESS AGAINST SOMEONE ELSE’S JOURNEY, THEN, YOU ARE DISTRACTED. WHEN YOUR SIGHT IS NOT ON YOUR GOALS, IT IS ON DISTRACTION. YOUR MIND WILL FIND PEACE WHEN YOU STOP.
BE CONFIDENT IN YOURSELF.
YOUR PROGRESS SHOULD BE MEASURED AGAINST THE GOALS THAT YOU WOULD / SHOULD HAVE SET.
EVERY MOMENT OFFERS YOU THE OPPORTUNITY TO DO JUST THAT.
SURE, COMPETITION IS STIFF. BESIDES COMPETING WITH PEOPLE, YOU HAVE TO COMPETE WITH A.I. (ARTIFICIAL INTELLIGENCE).
IS THERE ANY SPACE LEFT TO UPGRADE? THERE IS.
GET OFF THE GRID OF THE NORM. DO SOMETHING THAT WOULD ABSOLUTELY DELIGHT YOU…AND OTHERS, TOO. YOU MAY JUST HAVE SOMETHING TO OFFER… THAT HAS YET TO BE DISCOVERED…TO THE WORLD.
It was 2 days after her birthday. She had just turned 19.
He was a young officer in the Malayan army. His parents and siblings had relocated from Ipoh, the capital of the state of Perak; to Kuala Lumpur not too long ago. The location his parents and siblings moved to in Kuala Lumpur, the capital of Malaya, was next door to her house, where her parents, siblings and she lived….
So, now you know the story…and they lived happily ever after… The End.
Just kidding. There’s more… I just have not thought it up yet. No, this is not fiction. You may ask, how do I know about this story if I was not there… more precisely, not born…yet. Like the most famous book of all time, the Bible, these stories were told to us from multiple (…instead of “many”. Very American.) one, two generations ago.
She was 19.
From their union in Holy Matrimony on that memorable day onwards have come two generations of Atkinsons. They tried convincing us they got us from P.J. Store (of the 1960s, along Jalan Gasing [1]) when there were big discounts on kids.😃 We weren’t fooled that easy. We knew P.J. Store is where they got the toys from for us for Christmas. It was one of those early 1960s Christmases where my late sister, Jennifer; came up with a plan at that time (she was about 4 yrs old; and I, 3).
One evening, she knew that our dad and mum were going out for the evening. She knew that all our Christmas presents were in our parents’ bedroom (is that where Santa Claus emerges from every year?). She also knew the room door would be locked.
When dad and mum went out, her plan, “Operation Early Christmas” (No, she didn’t name this sneaky scheme. I just came up with it to add more drama to this little story😉😁😂) took off. She knew our parents would lock their bedroom door. So, she led me to their bedroom through our bedroom, to the toilet and magically to their open adjoining bathroom door. It was paradise as all the Christmas presents were there. She led me to tear open all the colourful wrappings off the presents. Picture this: she was the ringleader and I being the younger of the two; had to follow what she said. Needless to say, paradise soon came to an end when our parents got home and were really cross (that’s the English way of saying “angry”). I can’t remember what happened next… (selective memory?) It was a long time ago😁
Fast forward…and we are in 2026. We…some of us of their children and grandchildren who could make it, gathered on June 14th for mum’s 89th birthday. Besides it being Father’s Day as well; it was a gathering to wish them – the couple,
Mum, on her birthday.
Dad & Mum, that made this all happen (us), a HAPPY 70th WEDDING ANNIVERSARY.
They are still rocking it!
Today, dad is not in the greatest of health. He is in hospital, frail and dependent on the people around him to look after his needs. And they are. He had a good video-call with mum – both happy to see each other. They are blessed.
This is what I want to become…. That is what she wants to do… He aspires to…. They do nothing. Nothing different, nothing more than where they are at now. Will anything change?
IF WE REMAIN WHAT WE ARE, WE CANNOT BECOME WHAT WE WANT.
As I was doing a short (as in distance, not height) walk this morning, I passed by some of my neighbours who were chatting with each other.
“Wah! So leng chai”, they remarked when seeing me with my new hair colour. “Like Hong Kong…” one lady was saying as I interrupted, “movie star”, I said. “No lah!”, she exclaimed. “Like the Hong Kong chee chong fun seller in Court 2”, she said.
The other lady said, “Before, like one of the singers from BPS group”. I corrected her, “You mean BTS, the Korean singing group”.
“What BTS? BPS you know” she said, sounding slightly irritated. “Batu Pahat* Seniors group”, she said. “Oh….Okay”, I laughed and nodded, understanding.
Then, she shows me her smartphone (Known as “cell phones in some countries. But, here in Malaysia, they are known as smartphones. If you try to argue, people will give you the “Don’t try to give me the lip”). She said that she could hardly read the time on it. When I saw the screen of her phone, smartphone that is; “10.17am” in big bold digits.
I bade them a good day and continued on my short distance walk. Judith, my other neighbour living down Road B, said that I now look orang putih. I laughed😂….must be because of my name😁.
The first few…er many moments, minutes of being 68 years young, has been great.
The morning started with an early breakfast with family – Jeannie and Laura. Though there are multiple, more like many multiple restaurants in that area in Shah Alam; Yau Yat Khan is one of the busiest for breakfast.
Then, I went for a short walk, following that, replying to the hundreds of birthday wishes from people on social media. and the smartphone…family…friends…my book fans…people I have not met…yet.
As I write this article, I am thankful for the last 68 years. During the younger days of my siblings and cousins on my father’s side, my late Grandfather, Charles Atkinson used to sayon each of his birthdays, “Completed the year, now moving into my next”. This means that I have completed my 68th year and now am into my 69th.
I look at the future, which is the next moment forward, with awe, fascination and excitement. I don’t have too clear of an idea of what lies ahead…mysterious…journey into the unknown…yet. I intend to plot the course as I go along.
What I do know is that I have an amazing family – my wife, Jeannie; my daughter, Laura and her husband, Praga; Dad and mums (including Mum Ong, my mother-in-law), siblings and their families; uncles, aunts and their families, my La Salle School mates that go way back from primary school and the teachers and the other wonderful people, too; that make each day complete. My dear friend, Keith Ganesan, who is in Tokyo this morning, sent me a message saying that we must meet for a cigar when he is back. I replied, “That’s an absolute Will Do”.
I take this opportunity to thank everyone for all their kind wishes, thoughts and remembering this day.
Life is an amazing beauty in itself. Living it is taking it to the next level.
NOTES: 1. “wah” and “lah” are some of the expressions unique to Malaysia and this part of the world. If you are not from Malaysia; come and experience this unique living experience. The lives of Malaysians are centred around the food table. Anytime is a good time to eat. Before long, you’ll be wah-ing and lah-ing away, merrily. 2. *Batu Pahat isa town in the southern state of Peninsular Malaysia
YOUR FUTURE SELF IS IN THE VERY NEXT MOMENT AHEAD, THAT IS YET TO COME.
DON’T WAIT FOR MOTIVATION TO START YOUR FUTURE. RECOGNISE THAT MOTIVATION IS FROM WITHIN. RESPECT YOUR FUTURE SELF ENOUGH TO ACT EVEN WHEN THE FEELING ISN’T THERE YET.
TRUST PEOPLE WHOSE FEELINGS REMAIN THE SAME EVEN WHEN THE TIME CHANGES. THE TEST OF TIME REVEALS THEIR TRUE CHARACTER. THESE ARE THE PEOPLE THAT YOU CAN SHARE AND TOGETHER, BUILD THE FUTURE YOU ENVISION.